We believe in your marriage and we will equip you to make it better than ever.
We believe in marriage.
We believe we have a Creator who sees a bigger picture and purpose for marriage than our momentary comfort and pleasure. We believe marriage is a commitment worth fighting for and investing in.
We consider it an honor to work with couples through the complex dynamics of marriage in hopes of healing hurts, restoring faith and trust, learning healthy communication, and rediscovering intimacy.
Will this work?
The Married Life Approach
Two becoming one – marriage is something most of us long for and work hard to get. When confusion and conflict pervade and one or both partners want out of the marriage the pain and heartache are unbearable.
Have you tried marriage or couples counseling before and found the therapist was more of a mediator or audience while the two of you bickered? Or have you experienced blame and an unfair sense of responsibility while your partner came out looking like the “good guy”? We believe both individuals have valid perspectives that need to be acknowledged in order for the marriage to thrive. Married Life counseling aims to explore and discover the deeper dynamics happening between a couple when conflict and misunderstandings take over.
“A great marriage is not when the ‘perfect couple’ comes together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences.”
– Dave Meurer
Are we a fit?
Work With Us
We work with newlyweds and nest-builders all the way up to the empty-nesters and golden agers! Most human beings have this in common- a desire to love and be loved. That brings us together and builds a foundation for the counselor and client to collaborate. We find the best outcomes with folks who are willing to take 100% responsibility for themselves and their part in the “tango”.
Resources for Married Couples
The Seven Principles of Making Marriage Work
by Dr. John Gottman
Created for Connection
by Dr. Sue Johnson & Kenneth Sanderfer
God, Sex, and Your Marriage
by Juli Slattery
Frequently Asked Questions
What’s your success rate?
Tracking outcomes with our clients is something we’re working on. In the meantime, counseling is very collaborative. We will check in with you frequently to see what’s working and what’s not working and we’ll adjust and acclimate as needed. We find high success with folks that are willing to try, be teachable, humble, and patient.
How long will counseling take?
We ask couples to commit to weekly counseling for 6-8 weeks. At that point, we will reassess. Some couples “graduate” and return as needed. Others discover childhood wounds or other diagnoses are impacting their current realities and desire to continue working together to deepen healing and restoration.
What do we do after our first session?
After your first session, and after most sessions, we ask you to review any handouts provided and give them a try. We often provide support outside of the counseling office including books, podcasts, worksheets, youtube videos, etc. Unfortunately, we are not miracle workers, you have work to do outside of the counseling office! We’ll also provide gentle accountability to follow up with you on the goals and challenges from your last session.
What if my spouse isn’t willing to participate?
There’s still hope! You have influence and the changes you make individually can greatly impact your partner. Please speak with us regarding your situation and we’ll work with you on a plan.
We’ve done marriage counseling before and all the blame was put on my shoulders. How will this experience be any different?
First of all, we understand and have seen too many times this dynamic play out, personally and professionally. Rather than blaming each other, we work to identify and demonize the cycle, the emotional triggers, happening between partners. When we misbehave, there’s often a reason behind the behavior. We’ll go there by creating safety and partnership to uncover the hurts, wounds, and misunderstandings “under the water line”. We will also check in with you frequently to see how we’re doing addressing your concerns. If one partner is feeling blamed and overly responsible, we want to know and understand what’s happening there.
How do we pay for your services?
Please see our general Frequently Asked Questions page for information on how much a session costs, our insurance, and other financial policies.